With every member of a family, comes different experiences and views of life. Whatever child of the family you are defined as, always has it’s pros and cons. And regardless, none of these labels are better than the other. But of course, since we are self-absorbed children, we try to decipher whether we are the best child in the family and why that is so. So here is my reasoning.
Three Reasons Why Being the Oldest Child is Awesome:
1. I’m the Boss
By default, I am always and will forever be in charge when my parents are not around. Being the oldest sibling of two younger brothers, both eleven and twelve years old, this definitely has it’s perks. Yes, I have full permission from our parents to tell them what to do and when to do it. All major decisions are in my hands and what a power that is to have.
“Niko, please put your dish in the sink.”
“Dimitri, please take your clothes upstairs.”
“Niko, can you hand me the remote over there, I don’t feel like getting up.”
“Dimitri, can you please get me a glass of water with some lemon in it and make sure to squeeze it.”
There is just something about being able to look after your younger siblings and know that they are in the best hands possible, because the truth is I wouldn’t want them left with anyone else. They are in the process of growing up and what an honor it is to be a part of that. Just the pre-stages of motherhood that I get to experience at a young age. Oh, and I can tell them to do stuff for me and for some reason they actually listen.
2. I’m Older, Therefore I am Wiser
Yes, do not try to win an argument with me little ones, because I will always win. My twelve year old brother Dimitri, is the absolute smartest kid I have ever met and continues to out-smart me on a daily basis. But do not ever get confused with smarts and wisdom. I have experienced more, therefore I ultimately know that the square root of any number is whatever you want it to be, because in life there are many ways to get to one place, just like math. So don’t ask me to solve a math problem, I simply won’t do it. No but seriously, despite my terrible math skills, I will always share my best knowledge and advice with you. With time and experience comes great wisdom. Which is why we should always respect our elders. They truly have a better sense of common sense and responsibility. So no Niko, I don’t think you should tie a string around your barely loose tooth and shut it in the door.
3. I’m the Favorite
For obvious reasons, I am the favorite child. I was the first born, the first twinkle in my parents eyes and the first time they truly experienced the innocence of a newborn baby. You don’t experience that twice, which is why my life and priorities will always be held higher. I am totally kidding, again. Because I have such awesome parents, all three of our lives are a top priority of theirs. It’s just nice to know that despite my little brothers being so awesome and taking away all the attention that was once only on me, I will still always be the favorite daughter.
Three Reasons Why it’s Not Awesome:
1. I’m Expected to be a Role Model, Always
Talk about constantly watching what you’re doing and saying in front of others, imagine having two sets of eyes on you constantly watching what you do since they were born. I still find myself stopping in mid-conversation with my parents because I am afraid one of their innocent little ears will hear what I’m saying. It’s a tough job, and even when you think you’re having a simple conversation with them, you are actually teaching them something huge. These are the most influential years of their lives and whether I like it or not, I am a part of it and must make sure I am doing everything for their best interest.
2. They Get Away with More Than I Ever did at Their Age
This one gets me the most. I always said how awesome it was to have young, cool parents because they just got me and I felt like I could talk to them about anything. But regardless, I grew up in a strict atmosphere. And by that I mean I couldn’t watch certain movies, wear certain color nail polish, do certain things with friends, and FORGET about ever talking back to my mother. Nope. The term “You talk to me like that again and you won’t have a face. You’ll be walking to school with no face on,” was said a few times from my mother. So I grew up and accepted the strictness and grew to appreciate everything that my parents were teaching me. WELL. Now, when my brothers want to watch something, do something with their friends or talk back sometimes, the reaction is not as satisfying as I wish it would be. I hear the comment from my brothers, I look with sheer joy to see what my parents will say and all I get is a laugh and a shrug of the shoulders from my parents. WHAT?!…..”I just don’t have the energy anymore, it was funny,” is what I will hear instead. So soak it up guys, because you have a non-Grease watching, no red nail polish wearing, can’t go to that movie theater so late, you better watch that attitude or I’ll rip your face off, sister who would never get away with what you do!
3. I was the Practice Child
From what I said above, it’s pretty obvious that I was the practice child, as are most first born. They raise us blind-sided and hope to God they are raising us right. And, don’t get me wrong, I love and respect my parents and had an amazing childhood. But of course, looking back, there are things they want to make sure they will correct for the next ones. It’s just the process of life and I’m totally okay with it. So maybe, my brothers get to do more and get away with more but that’s okay with me because they deserve it. Being the oldest may be hard sometimes, but watching them laugh and grow and show me how smart they are is the most rewarding thing to see as an older sibling, so I’ll take being the “practice child,” because of it.