Before getting into the nitty-gritty’s, I waned to share that it’s been a tough week for me, as it has been for so many others. I’ve had a hard time accepting that what we’re seeing in the news is reality. There was a lot of hurt, confusion, dissapointment and tears. As much as I want to believe that racism is behind us, it’s very much still alive.
After taking a week to reflect on the recent activities going on in our country, I was able to come out with a plan. If anything has stood out to me, it’s been the amplified black voices I’ve been listening to. I’ve realized what I need to do, that I just wasn’t doing before. It’s time for me to step up and help the Black Lives Matter Movement.
Wondering how you can help, but have no idea how to get started? You may have been exposed to an abundance of resources and messages already, and many of the call outs below will be extremely repetitive across many blogs and channels, but that’s what we need right now. We need to continue sharing these resources and making our voices heard.
Before I get started, I want to acknowledge that I’m a white privileged woman. I have absolutely no idea what it feels like to be discriminated against for the color of my skin. I have no idea what it’s like to live in fear. I have no idea what it’s like to be told that I need to be careful around cops. The people who are supposed to protect us.
I write this blog to show my absolute love and support for the black community and to stand up for what I know is wrong. Racism has always been confusing, scary and disappointing to me ever since I was a kid. I have my education and parents to that for that.
So here I am, anti-racist and loving, yet what do I have to show for it? Well besides having black friends, nothing. I haven’t done a single thing to show my support or actually give back to this cause. That has drastically changed this week and will for the rest of my life.
Here’s how to start supporting the Black Lives Matter Movement:
Now is the time to start reading books on racism and black lives. If we can’t understand how it feels, we can at least try and understand where this all started and why this is still happening.
Here are a list of books to read:
- White Fragility
- Why are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?
- The New Jim Crow
- How to Be an Antiracist
- Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches
- So You Want to Talk About Race
If you’re financially able, I highly encourage you to donate whatever you can to any of the below worthy causes:
- Black Lives Matter
- Black Women’s Blueprint
- Black Visions Collective
- NAACP Legal Defense Fund
- American Civil Liberties Union
Support black business owners
There are too many great businesses to list here, so I encourage you to check out this compiled list of 77 black-owned businesses to start supporting today. The topics range from beauty, bookstores, clothing and accessories, food and drink, fitness, home decor and gift shops.
Below are also a few amazing black female influencers, bloggers and business-owners who I follow on Instagram:
- @jess_likethat_ – Fitness Enthusiast, Personal Trainer & Coach
- @africancocktail – An Afropolitan, Analyst & Content Creator living an outspokenly feminine life
- @just_cienna – Host for international retreats and trips for women, world traveler & podcaster
- @raven_alexis – Blogger, Motherhood & Travel
- @shawnacischroeder – Neutral streetstyle, wifey, dog mom & vlogger
- @menzabolamba – Content creator, fashion lover & Christ follower
Stop tolerating passive racism
One of the most effective ways to prevent racism, within your control, is to call people out when they make a racist reference or joke in front of you. Instead of brushing it off, tell that person that you’re offended and this it’s unacceptable.
Oftentimes, there are situations and conversations that are indirect to us, but highly offensive and inapropriate to someone else. We need to stop normalizing these passive remarks and put an end to them by making people feel uncomfortable in the moment. We need to let people know that comments like that will simply not be tolerated.
If more people were to make it a habit to do this, imagine how many would stop making comments, how any people that would go unifluenced and how many children’s ears would be spared. Which brings me to my next point…
The best way, after completing this long list of tasks, is to share what you know and have learned with others. I keep saying this but, change starts with us. If we want the world to change, we have to change our own behavior and teach others to do the same. This involves extreme reflection, intense personal audits of how we feel, shifting our mindset and making every effort to get others onboard.
When I become a mother one day, it will be a top priority to teach my kids from day one, that all are created equal. That all are meant for love. That all are meant to live.
I see you and I stand with you. Black lives matter.